If you have been thinking about settling down and having a baby for a long time, you need to get ready physically and mentally as well. Having a baby will change your life forever, and you will have to adjust your current lifestyle to the needs of your young family to make the most out of motherhood. In case you are excited and worried at the same time, you can get prepared by finding out more about how pregnancy and childbirth will make you a different person.
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Time Off Work
When you are planning to get pregnant, you are likely to have to take time off work to attend medical appointments and take part in preparation courses at your local clinic. If you are having difficulties getting pregnant, you might have to miss work to undergo hormonal treatments or get IVF. If you are in the middle of building your career, it might not be the right time to plan a family, however, with careful planning, you will be able to meet different commitments at ease.
Babies are expensive, and as kids grow, they will cost even more. You will need to make sure that you have a budget for a baby. Before you get pregnant, you might need to check medical insurance covers, and, if you suffer from long term infertility, compare affordable IVF plans to allocate funds for the treatments. Hospitalization can cost you money, and things are not getting better after you give birth. From diapers to baby carriers, nursery furniture, and regular expenses, you have to spend a lot of money to protect the new life you have been trusted with.
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Your social life is likely to suffer after you give birth. Due to staying up long nights, you might be too tired to stay in touch with friends. Childcare will be an issue in the first few months. Get a plan in place and ask for help from friends and family members. If you get stuck in the house for a long time, you will be more likely to suffer from postnatal depression, which will impact your life for a long time.
As you become a parent, you priorities are likely to change. You will focus more on security and family life, and less on flashy cars and luxury holidays. Further, you will become more sensible with money, and providing for your baby will be your number one role. You will prefer function over appearance, and safety over speed. As your mindset changes, you will feel like your youth is over.
After becoming a parent, you will understand the position and views of your relatives better. You are likely to reflect on your relationship with your own mother and father, and understand the past decisions of family members better. You will become better when organizing “mummy showers” for your friends. You might get closer to some relatives who are willing to help you out when you are struggling with parenthood.
Your home life is likely to become more organized and functional. As you become a parent, you will also have to be a role model for your children. No more cheeky fast food dinners, and cooking healthy food might be one of your newfound hobbies. Stay at home mothers often decide to set up a business that they can remotely work on, instead of leaving childcare to other people. You will prefer staying in to spending time in the office or a friends’ house.
Some people find it hard to get back in shape after giving birth. You might become more health-conscious, or take on an exercise routine you can do at home, instead of going to the gym. Complications after pregnancy can impact your health, and you will find it hard to find time to look after your health. Make sure that you get professional help and use mineral and vitamin supplements if your busy life is not allowing you to exercise regularly. On the other hand, after you got used to your new daily routine, you might focus more on staying healthy to be able to look after your family for a long time.
Whether you are sure about having kids soon or still sitting on the fence, you need to complete a reality check. Ask yourself about the methods you will use to cope with stress, social isolation, and lifestyle changes. If you are mentally and physically ready, it it time to check you have the resources you need to support your child for many years to come.